I’m about to share the most surprising data you’ll ever hear about how often exes called back our clients and wanted to reconcile. Most people think that the majority of exes don’t call back, but they’re wrong.

Most people also think that their exes are not calling back because they were too sensitive or they just weren’t meant to be, but they’re wrong again. Let me tell you why…

When it happens

We’ve all been there. You break up with someone, you’re feeling sad and vulnerable, and then your phone rings. It’s your ex. And they want to talk. Or maybe they want to get back together.

What does the data say about how often this happens? According to our recent survey, it’s relatively standard. Nearly 70% of people said that their ex called them within a month of the breakup.

And of those people, almost half said that their ex wanted to patch things up. So what does this mean for you? If you’ve recently been through a breakup and your ex calls you, don’t be too surprised.

It might just mean that they’re missing you as much as you’re missing them.

How the conversation starts

We’ve all been there. You’ve just gone through a breakup, and are feeling heartbroken, confused, and maybe even a little angry; then manifest your vision for a new relationship.

But then, a few days (or weeks) later, your ex calls you out of the blue and wants to talk. What gives? Why do they suddenly want to make amends? Why now, after so many months of silence? So what are we left with?

One plausible explanation is that some people may genuinely regret their decision to end their relationship. For others, it may be an ego boost: They need closure or a chance to explain themselves.

It’s not always clear why someone would reach out when they have no intention of getting back together, but it happens more than you might think.

What she says

We’ve all been there. You break up with someone, you’re feeling low and lonely, and then your phone rings. It’s your ex, wanting to talk things out.

What gives? Psychologists say there can be several reasons why an ex wants to rekindle the flame. One reason is that he misses the attention and closeness that come with being in a relationship; another is that he doesn’t know what else to do since he has nothing better going on, or maybe he doesn’t want you to hook up with anyone else.

Whatever the reason, if you’re still interested in discussing it, make sure to do so face-to-face this time around, so there are no more mixed messages.

What you say

We all know the feeling. You’ve been through a breakup, and you’re feeling awful. You want to curl up in a ball and forget that your ex ever existed. But then, a few weeks (or days) later, they call you out of the blue and say they want to talk things out.

What gives? Why would they even bother trying to get back together if they were so willing to end it before? If you are wondering this too, you’re not alone. A new study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that some people attempt to reconcile with their ex-partner due to feelings of guilt or regret.

These people are willing to go through the pain again because they think it will make them feel better about themselves.

Best ways to end the conversation

It’s always best to be honest with your ex about why the relationship didn’t work out. This can help pave the way for a more amicable conversation. If your ex tries to start a fight or seems angry, it’s best to end the conversation immediately.

There’s no point in trying to talk things out if they’re not in the right frame of mind. Sometimes it’s best to listen to what your ex has to say. They may have some valid points that you hadn’t considered before.

If your ex is being disrespectful or hurtful, end the conversation and cut them off. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life.