Jealousy can be an ugly emotion, so what do you do when it strikes? How do you deal with jealousy, especially when you’re concerned that your ex may be moving on? Dealing with jealousy isn’t easy, but these steps can help.
Dealing with jealousy after the breakup
It’s normal to be jealous when your ex moves on, but that doesn’t mean you have to get caught up in unnecessary drama.
Try some of these strategies and tips for dealing with your feelings of jealousy while they’re still fresh. If you have any other suggestions or tips, we’d love to hear from you. Let us know what works for you in the comments below!
Dealing with jealousy because you feel left out
If you\’re dealing with jealousy because you feel left out or overlooked, there are some important things you should remember. First of all, if your ex has moved on, it\’s natural for that to cause some jealousy.
And it\’s totally normal—but only up to a point. If your jealousy is eating away at your self-esteem and making it difficult for you to function normally in everyday life, then you might need help getting through it.
Talk to a trusted friend or family member about what\’s going on and take care of yourself before reaching out again (and causing more conflict) by taking things slow and giving your ex space as well.
What makes you jealous
It\’s natural to be curious about your ex after a breakup. You want to know what they\’re doing, who they\’re doing it with, and how often.
Why? Because you\’re still interested in them and see them as an option for your future happiness. This can quickly turn into an obsession where you spend more time trying to figure out who their new partner is than you do focusing on your own life (which doesn\’t seem like such a bad idea at first).
It’s important that you understand why it’s so important for them to move on if you don’t want to feel jealous. It all boils down our primal desire for survival – both as individuals and species.
See more: The Dos and Don’t of Communicating with Your Ex
Dealing with feelings of insecurity
It can be tough to deal with feelings of jealousy when you see your ex moving on. You may feel angry or disrespected, or have trouble understanding why they need space or time away from you.
All of these are normal feelings, but it’s important not to let them get in your way. In fact, trying to over-compensate for those feelings might cause you more harm than good—so it’s best if you just let things happen as they do.