Why I Said No: My Decision to Break Up

I remember the day I had to say the dreaded words “No, I won’t come back”. It was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever had to make, but it was the right one for me. For months, I had been struggling with a difficult breakup that had left me feeling raw and exhausted. After a lot of soul searching, I decided it was time to put my own wellbeing first. My story isn’t unique—many of us have gone through the process of navigating the difficult terrain of dating and breakups. That’s why I wanted to share my experience and what I learned from my decision to finally say “No”.

The Relationship Before the Breakup

Our relationship started off like a fairytale. We met through mutual friends and instantly hit it off. The butterflies in my stomach were constant, and I couldn’t help but daydream about a future together. We went on dates, spent countless nights talking until dawn, and supported each other through thick and thin. It felt like we were invincible, and I was convinced that we were meant to be.

But as time went on, cracks began to form in our once-perfect relationship. Little disagreements turned into heated arguments. The laughter and joy we used to share were replaced with tension and resentment. I ignored these red flags, convincing myself that every relationship has its ups and downs.

As the months passed, the love we once shared slowly faded away. We stopped making an effort for each other and started taking each other for granted. The spark that had once ignited our relationship had dimmed, and we were left with an empty shell of what used to be.

I knew deep down that something had to change. I couldn’t continue living in a relationship that was slowly suffocating me. It was a difficult decision to make, but I knew it was necessary. Ending the relationship was the only way to preserve my own happiness and wellbeing.

Looking back, I realize now that I had been blinded by love. I was so determined to make things work that I overlooked the warning signs. But I have learned my lesson. I will never again ignore my gut instincts or sacrifice my own happiness for the sake of a relationship. It may have been painful to say goodbye, but it was the best decision I could have made for myself.

The Red Flags I Ignored

In the midst of love and passion, it’s easy to turn a blind eye to the warning signs that lurk beneath the surface. I convinced myself that every relationship has its ups and downs, but deep down, I knew something wasn’t right. The constant arguments, the lack of effort, and the growing distance between us were all red flags that I chose to ignore. I thought we could work through it, that we were just going through a rough patch. But I now realize that by dismissing these warning signs, I was jeopardizing my own happiness and wellbeing.

The Moment I Decided to End It

It was a defining moment in my life. The moment I decided to end our relationship. After months of trying to make things work, I realized that I was only prolonging the inevitable. The love had faded, the joy had evaporated, and I was left feeling empty. I couldn’t ignore the truth any longer. I knew deep down that we weren’t meant to be together. It was a heartbreaking realization, but it was the right one. Ending it was the only way to free myself from the suffocating grip of a dying relationship. And in that moment, I took the first step towards reclaiming my happiness.


In the end, my decision to say “No” and break up was one of the hardest, yet most empowering choices I’ve ever made. It wasn’t easy to walk away from a relationship that once held so much promise, but I knew that staying would only prolong my own unhappiness. By recognizing the red flags I had ignored and finding the courage to end them, I took a step toward reclaiming my happiness and well-being. And if you find yourself in a similar situation, remember that there is support available. Reach out to Coach Brad or someone you trust for guidance and support as you navigate through your own breakup journey. You deserve to find happiness and fulfillment, and sometimes saying “No” is the first step towards that.