How to Manage Your Pets During Your Breakup

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Here’s the safest & most ethical way to manage your pet whilst breaking up or going through a divorce.

Leaving a relationship is never easy, but it can be even more difficult when you have pets. As pet owners, we want to make sure our furry friends are well taken care of and happy, even if that means having to make the tough decision to leave a relationship. If you’re in a situation where you’re considering leaving a dating relationship, there are some key things you should consider to make sure your pet’s needs are met. In this blog post, we’ll discuss how to navigate leaving a relationship when you have pets.

Talk to your veterinarian

If you’re considering leaving a marriage or a serious relationship, it’s important to involve your veterinarian. A relationship breakup, whether it’s a divorce or simply ending a long-term dating partnership, can be an emotionally stressful experience for both humans and pets. You may be concerned about how your pet will react to the change in the household dynamic or how to provide for your pet during the transition. Your veterinarian can be a valuable source of information and support in this difficult time.

Your veterinarian can answer any questions you have about your pet’s health, nutrition, and daily routines. They may also be able to offer advice on how to prepare your pet for the changes in the home, such as providing them with extra love and attention during the transition period. Additionally, your veterinarian can suggest ways to provide your pet with stability and consistency during the break up, such as sticking to their regular schedule as much as possible. Don’t hesitate to reach out to your vet for guidance as you navigate the end of your relationship.

Talk to your friends and family

Breaking up with someone is never easy, but when you have pets together, it can be even harder. Before you take the plunge and end your marriage or relationship, talk to your friends and family about your decision. They may be able to provide support, practical advice, or even a listening ear when times get tough.

Discussing your thoughts and feelings with loved ones can be immensely helpful when you’re considering a divorce or breakup. They may have ideas about how to handle the situation that you wouldn’t have thought of on your own. It’s important to be open and honest with them, too—especially if they care for your pet(s) while you are dating or living together. That way, they can be better prepared to help you care for your pets after you break up.

Be sure to also consult an attorney if you need legal advice regarding your situation. Divorce or separation agreements involving pets can be complicated and require specialized knowledge, so seeking professional help may be necessary.

Create a plan

When you decide to leave a relationship, it can be a difficult process, especially if you have pets. Animals can often become attached to the people they live with, and leaving can be difficult on them. If you are considering a divorce, breakup, or end to a dating relationship, there are some important steps you should take in order to ensure that your pet is taken care of properly.

First, it is important to have a conversation with your veterinarian. They can provide insight into how best to help your pet cope during this transition. Additionally, you may want to consider speaking to your friends and family about who could care for your pet in case of an emergency.

Once you’ve decided on a plan for your pet’s care, it is important to create an action plan for yourself. This plan should include details such as who you will stay with, what type of support system you will need, and where your pet will be staying. It is also important to establish communication between both parties in the relationship so that the needs of your pet are met and expectations are clear.

Lastly, when leaving a relationship it is important to follow through with your plan. Make sure that you have the necessary resources available so that the transition is as stress-free as possible. Additionally, be aware of any legal responsibilities that may arise if you are ending a marriage.

By creating a plan ahead of time, you can help make sure that your pet is well taken care of during this difficult transition.


Leaving a relationship is never easy, but it can be particularly difficult when you have pets involved. If you are considering marriage, divorce, or breakup, it is important to make sure your pets are taken care of. Talk to your veterinarian, friends, and family to come up with a plan that works for both you and your pet. At the end of the day, it’s important to remember that you are doing what is best for everyone involved. If you need help navigating this situation, please call us. We offer compassionate, one-on-one guidance through our relationships coach Brad who can help you find the right solution.