Remember you have choices

Although it’s easy to lose yourself in your work and your projects when you’re going through stress from a breakup or divorce, remember that there are ways to make things easier.

Give yourself permission not only to put time aside for grieving, but also for your own health and mental health. For many people, trying new things like hobbies or activities can help alleviate some of that stress.

If you aren’t sure what might suit you best, go out with friends and try new activities.

Let your boss know

You’ve had a tough breakup, and you’re not really sure how it will affect your work. You may feel uncomfortable sharing too much information with your boss or colleagues,

but keep in mind that no matter what happens between you and your ex, you need to maintain professional boundaries. If possible, let your boss know about it before an emergency arises.

Take care of yourself

it’s easy to neglect your physical and mental health when you’re going through a breakup or divorce. It can feel like there’s just no time for yoga classes, meditation, walks in nature, eating healthy meals—

you know all those things that might actually make you feel better. But working on your self-care is one of the most important things you can do for yourself during such difficult times.

Find an outlet – let it out

Taking an anger management class can really help, but you don’t have to wait for someone else to offer one. Find an outlet that works for you; venting your emotions is cathartic, and physical activity (like running) has been shown to lower stress levels.

Figure out what works best for you, then make time in your day for it—just as if it were an important meeting.

Read more: 10 Signs That You’re In The Denial Phase

Give yourself permission to take time off if needed

If you’re suffering emotionally and find it difficult to get through your workday, give yourself permission to take time off.

Many companies will allow you a certain number of sick days per year for personal emergencies, so use them when necessary.

Remember that leaving early one day won’t be catastrophic—it’s okay if you only go partway toward your goals. You can always make up for lost time later in your career.