1) Think about the logistics
Logistics are enormous in divorce situations. Consider what time of day works best for everyone and try to adhere to it. Kids can get confused if they have different rules and schedules when they’re with each parent. To minimise confusion, it’s best to stick to a consistent schedule and do things at the same time every day.
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The same goes for drop-off locations. Try not to change those unless necessary, and remember where they need to be at any given moment.
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2) Communicate with each other
Communication is an essential part of any relationship, but it becomes even more crucial during a divorce. A significant part of handling a split is maintaining good communication with each other and with your children.
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Communication allows you to work through issues instead of letting them fester and explode later on. Meaning your kids can benefit from clear communication now more than ever.
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3) Keep it light
In life, we all say and do things we regret. You’re bound to upset or hurt someone at some point. And when you are going through a divorce and trying to co-parent with an ex, you are likely to come across situations where your kids will be emotionally affected by your words or actions.
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Read more: Creating a Bright Holiday for Your Children During Divorce.
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4) Think about them first
We are often so busy with our own lives, jobs, and children that we forget about their well-being when we pick them up or drop them off. Taking a few moments to talk to your child can make all the difference when you have a divorce in your life.
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Take 5 minutes before picking up your children from their mother’s house and let them know how much you love them. Make sure they understand that mommy loves them too, and how they can help her get through her busy days.
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5) Help in any way you can
This can be tough if your ex is uncooperative, but it’s always a good idea to try. Help your children settle into their new home, as well as adjust to their new routines and schedules.
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Please provide them with all your contact information and let them know you’re available for anything that may arise. This can help make things run more smoothly for everyone involved.
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Conclusion
Be Patient – Being patient is probably one of the toughest things to do when dealing with your ex. The person who hurt you’s now back in your life, and it’s going to take some time before you’re comfortable around each other again. You must realise that both of you will experience a wide range of emotions. It’s okay to feel a little awkward or angry at times, but don’t allow these feelings to get in the way of creating a positive and loving environment for your children.