After a Breakup

The 30-Day No Contact Rule and How It Works. There’s no denying that a breakup is an emotionally challenging process, whether it’s the death of a loved one, job loss, or divorce.

These types of situations can take a toll on any person. If you need help with your end-of-relationship grief, countless counsellors can work with you to get you through your time grieving.

On the First Day

The very first thing to do is take a few deep breaths. This helps calm down your emotions, which are likely running wild right now. Feeling in control will help you stay on track with your no-contact rule. Take a few minutes to start creating and/or reviewing your no-contact plan.

When you have everything laid out, it’s time to put it into action. Start by removing him from all social media sites and blocking his phone number(s).

Then, spend some time removing all traces of him from your home and office spaces. After that, unfriend anyone who liked or commented on one of his posts—including family members if they live far away!

On the Second Day

Step one in getting over your ex is to divorce yourself from your negative emotions. This means no contact with your ex whatsoever. If you’re separated or divorced,

I know it will be hard. However, if you can’t completely cut off all contact, at least limit it to a few times a week and avoid prolonged communication via email or text. To divorce yourself from these negative emotions, get rid of anything that reminds you of your ex.

Donate their clothes (or put them up for sale on eBay for a friend), remove them from Facebook, Twitter, and Flickr – do everything possible to erase memories and pictures of them, even taking down relationship quotes on Pinterest as reminders.

The more you reduce exposure to these things that keep reminding you of what was lost, in hopes that what was once there will come back.

On the Third Day

On day three of no contact, you’ll need to think about what happened. That day, you need to decide if your relationship is worth getting upset over or if it was just a phase and never really mattered.

If you’re still feeling down on that third day, it might be time to move on from what happened.

For example, perhaps your partner has slept with someone else and compromised any chance of trust in your relationship; in that case, walking away might be the best option.

It’s always hard to let go of someone you love, but on day three of no contact, things become clear: it wasn’t going anywhere anyway! Letting go will be easier once you face reality and finally accept the situation.

Read here, How to Manage Depression through Divorce.

After 1 Month

If it’s been a month, you can now contact your ex again. Text them and let them know that you’re feeling much better and would love to hang out. If they don’t respond, wait another week and send a quick email. Still nothing? Send another text message. Continue until they respond (or don’t).

Even if they still aren’t interested in getting back together, remember: At least now you know! It’s better than being stuck wondering what could have happened if you gave it more time or tried harder to get their attention.

Remember: They may not want to talk to you right now, but they might be ready to talk to you later on. So, be patient and try again later.