The state you should never communicate from if you don’t want the divorce to happen.

Divorce!

It’s something that often leaves those who did not initiate it feeling let down, unwanted, like a failure, hurt, confused, sad, angry, in disbelief, and a whole host of other emotions.

It’s natural to feel like this; it’s a tough pill to swallow, and of course, the thought of divorce hurts and brings on a lot of anxiety and worry for what’s to come.

But here’s the cold, hard truth you need to hear if you want to save your divorce

The following emotions usually follow that dreaded word.

1. Hurt
2. Feeling of rejection
3. Sadness
4. Self-pity
5. Neediness
6. Resentment
7. Anger and more

…But here’s the kicker!

The above emotions, although natural, will not serve you one little bit if you linger in them too long.

The problem is that 90% of the time, people do just that, and that’s usually one of the main things that drives the final nail in the coffin. In short, we’ve to learn not to act out of emotion, not to suppress it, but to act in a balanced way.

On that note, I’d like to tell you about Tony, one of my clients from 2021, who is from the UK.

Tony’s story may help you.

Tony had lost his purpose at home; he and his wife would bicker, and the spark had left the relationship. They started just co-living, often in different beds (warning sign if this is you)

They drifted as Maria pushed for progress in her career, health, and just generally in herself, and Tony, well, Tony just made everything about Maria instead of himself (another big mistake)

Eventually, those words came out of her mouth after an argument about Tony always being around the house and not having any hobbies.

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“I need a break, Tony”

The break turned into weeks, and as time went by, Tony became more needy, still only focusing on his Wife, which was pushing her away.

Tony told me about the time his wife was due to come around for “a talk,” and he was excited, nervous, and hoping somehow it would turn out for the best. Unfortunately, the truth is – hope is not a strategy or proven process.

Maria arrived, and Tony’s emotions got the better of him almost immediately.

He couldn’t stop telling Maria how he wished she’d come back and that he’d change, and asking when she’d be back.

Telling her he loved her and smothering her with affection. Then she said, “Tony, I’m sorry, I want a divorce, I’ve got to go”

What happened next was Tony’s next mistake.

The truth is, Tony had made his world about Maria, which is lovely, but he needed to make space for his world. His self-growth

He’d lost his purpose, and that’s not attractive to a Woman.

He’d become the Beta in the relationship and made his whole life about Maria.

“Please don’t go, I need you”

There it was, with that one emotional outburst, Tony had secured his place on the island of singles.

The big mistake Tony made was that he spoke and acted from his negative emotions. When you’re sad, hurt, and angry, 99% of the time, communicating from this place will never work out well for you.

So, how did Tony get his wife back?

We had to get Tony to start taking action for himself, making an effort for himself and stop all and any communication from the hurt, sad and angry place.

We needed his Wife to stop seeing the needy side of Tony and make her realise that he can push forward with his life with or without her.

I had him work on himself with 12 specific, essential, and empowering steps that helped him develop confidence, high self-esteem, and self-worth. This is how I Helped My Client, Tony, Save His Marriage from Divorce.

We ensured that he only communicated with Maria when she messaged him. He now sounded different, more sure and confident, and it was real because he was living his purpose and busy doing it.

Suddenly, Tony wasn’t as available as before, and things started to shift. Maria picked up on this and began to get curious about what Tony was doing. Once she realised he was progressing, she could see the Husband she married, a man with drive and purpose.

Because Tony was working on himself so much, his career was changing, his physique was changing, and the main thing that he changed that changed everything was…

1 – He stopped speaking from negative emotional states

2 – He started speaking from empowered emotional states

His Wife now saw an Alpha, on course and purposeful, instead of a needy, emotionally unbalanced individual.

The truth is, she didn’t want the divorce; she just wanted her Husband back, but only Tony could make that change.

To stick with these sorts of changes, you need to be held accountable, which I did every day with Tony to ensure his transformation. How I Helped My Client, Tony, Save His Marriage from Divorce.

If you’d like to discover the exact 12 steps I took Tony through to have his Wife become more attracted to him than ever before, then book in a quick call.

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