What You Done
You cheated on your wife. It was a one-time thing, but you regret it deeply. You’re not sure if you can save your marriage, but you want to try. You\’re sorry for what you did and you’re willing to do whatever it takes to make things right.
You’ve been trying to be more attentive and supportive, but the wife is pushing back even harder. There’s no way of knowing how she’ll react when she finds out that you cheated. Divorce is still an option, but you really don’t want that to happen.
The Consequences of Your Actions
No one said marriage was easy. In fact, it’s probably one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. You made a commitment to your spouse to be faithful and honest, but you broke that promise.
Now you’re faced with the consequences of your actions. Your spouse is hurt and angry, and rightfully so. They may even want a divorce. But if you truly are sorry and regret what you did, there may be hope for saving your marriage.
How Will It Effect Your Kids
No one wants to think about how their actions will effect their children, but if you\’re considering cheating, it’s important to weigh that into your decision.
If you’re caught, it will likely hurt and confuse your kids. They may feel like they can’t trust you and that you don’t value your family.
In some cases, kids may even blame themselves for the affair. Cheating can have a ripple effect on your entire family – not just your marriage.
The Apology Letter
You did something that you shouldn\’t have done and you know it. Also, you are truly sorry for what you did and you regret it deeply.
You want to save your marriage. You love your spouse and you don\’t want to lose them. You\’re willing to do whatever it takes to make things right.
You’re ready to apologize and ask for forgiveness. You can\’t undo the past but you can learn from your mistakes and move forward with a clean slate. You can rebuild trust, respect, and honesty in your relationship by making amends with the person you hurt most.
The Reconciliation Steps
- Acknowledge what you did wrong.
- Accept responsibility for your actions.
- Express your remorse.
- Be willing to make amends.
- Commit to changing your behavior.
- Show that you\’re taking action to change by following through on your commitments.
- Try to rebuild trust by being transparent and vulnerable with your spouse.