How to Save Your Marriage When my Wife says It’s too Late


You’re reading this because you’re in a situation where your wife said it’s too late for your marriage. To be most honest, most of the time they say this, it is still possible to save your marriage.

As a professional marriage counselor, I have seen many couples struggle with a difficult situation where one partner feels that it’s too late to save their marriage. While it can be a heartbreaking and demoralizing experience, I’ve brought back the marriage together. Let’s see what you need to do this and more.


Having a positive determined mindset that you will succeed in saving your marriage is one of the most important aspects of saving your marriage. With a positive mindset, you can begin to see the potential in your relationship and take proactive steps toward building a better future together. Remember, a positive mindset is a choice, and it can lead to a happier, more fulfilling marriage.

Emotions and Feelings

Does your wife feel good about you anymore? Getting your wife to feel emotionally attached to you and to desire you makes a huge difference in saving your marriage. A vast majority of married couples don’t know how to do this. A common issue that happens is, you grow complacent after your marriage and you start to get sloppy, don’t do the things you would when you started dating your wife, and don’t say things that make them EMOTIONALLY attached to you. If she starts getting more interested in someone over you, your marriage is in danger. She needs to feel strong about you if you want to save your marriage.

Marriage Counseling

Seeking Professional help is important when you don’t know what to do. A lot of pieces of advice are to communicate but the problem lies, in how we do it. For example, needing to manage our behavior, mindset to not get too emotional, as well as minding the words we say are all aspects we need to focus on. A marriage counselor in saving your marriage by pointing you in the right direction. Knowing when and how to identify the first sign of needing to change our approach to our situation is not easy and seeking professional help can help you control the situation. At Coach-Brad we specialize in saving people’s marriages and have been in this situation many times. If you’re interested in learning how to save your marriage we offer a free 45-minute consultation to help you now.


When “It’s too late” or “It’s Over” does not mean it is

Hearing your wife say “it’s too late for our marriage” or “it’s over” can be an incredibly difficult and painful experience. It can feel like the end of the road for your relationship, leaving you with feelings of hopelessness and despair. However, it’s important to remember that just because your wife has expressed these feelings, it doesn’t necessarily mean that your marriage is truly over. There are several scenarios where you can take steps to save your marriage.

Scenario 1 – Anger

Does it always seem like there’s an anger or argument happening between you and your partner? One possible scenario is this reoccurrence of arguments that don’t stop and we reach a breaking point where your wife doesn’t see a way forward in the current state of your relationship. Perhaps you have been going through a rough patch, and your wife feels like things have gone too far. However, this doesn’t mean that your marriage is beyond repair. A crucial piece of advice here is to identify what is the cause of this emotional anger and argument. How do we solve it? With time, patience, and effort, you can work through the issues that are causing the strain in your relationship. This may involve seeking professional help, such as counseling or therapy, to work through your problems and identify ways to move forward.

Scenario 2 – Negligence and Appreciation

Another possible scenario is that your wife has been feeling neglected or unappreciated, and she is expressing her frustration and hurt by saying that it’s over. In this case, it’s important to take a step back and reflect on your behavior and actions in the relationship. Are there things that you could be doing to make your wife feel more loved and valued? By taking a proactive approach to addressing the underlying issues, you can show your wife that you are committed to the relationship and willing to make the necessary changes.

Scenario 3 – Support when they need it

It’s also possible that your wife is feeling overwhelmed by external stressors, such as work or family pressures, and is projecting those feelings onto your relationship. In this case, it’s important to be supportive and understanding of your wife’s needs. By being a source of comfort and stability for your wife, you can help her to work through the stressors that are impacting your relationship.

Scenario 4 – Needy Behavior

I understand that it can be difficult to receive feedback from your spouse, especially when it involves a behavior that you may not be aware of. If your wife is sick of your needy behavior, it’s important to acknowledge and validate her feelings. This means taking responsibility for your behavior and making a commitment to change. Start by identifying the underlying reasons for your neediness. Are you seeking validation or attention from your partner? Are there unresolved emotional issues that are causing you to feel anxious or insecure? Once you have identified the root cause of your neediness, you can work on developing healthier coping mechanisms and communication skills. This may involve setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and finding alternative sources of validation and support. Remember, change is a process, and it takes time and effort to develop new habits and ways of relating to your partner. With patience, self-reflection, and a willingness to learn and grow, you can overcome your neediness and create a more fulfilling and balanced relationship with your spouse.

Regardless of the scenario, the key to saving your marriage is to remain committed and open to change. This may involve making changes to your behavior, such as being more attentive or communicative, or it may involve working together with your wife to address issues in the relationship. It’s important to be patient and to remember that rebuilding a relationship takes time and effort. But with commitment and perseverance, you can work towards a stronger, happier marriage.


Tips on saving your marriage

Communicate and talk it out

Firstly, communication is key. Both partners must have an open and honest dialogue about what led to the breakdown of their relationship. By understanding each other’s perspective, you can identify the areas where you can work together to make things better. However, it’s important to remain calm and avoid getting defensive, as this can escalate the situation.

Respect & Responsibility

Secondly, taking responsibility for your actions and behavior is crucial. It’s important to acknowledge any hurt or pain that you may have caused and to make a genuine effort to change your ways. This involves being honest with yourself about your faults and actively working to improve yourself.

Being on the Same Page

Being on the same page with your partner is crucial when it comes to saving a marriage. If you and your spouse have different goals or ideas about how to move forward, it can make it challenging to work together effectively. By being on the same page, you can establish a clear and common understanding of what you both want to achieve and how you plan to get there. This involves open and honest communication, active listening, and a willingness to compromise and make adjustments where necessary. When both partners are committed to the same goal and have a shared understanding of the path forward, it can lead to greater trust, intimacy, and a stronger, more fulfilling marriage.

Showing that you still love her

Showing your love and commitment to your partner is another important step. This involves small gestures of love and kindness that can go a long way in rebuilding trust and intimacy in your relationship. These gestures can be as simple as expressing your love, listening to your partner, or spending quality time together.

Showing your Patience

Finally, it’s essential to be patient. Saving a marriage takes time and effort, and it’s important not to expect immediate results. By being patient, committed, and willing to put in the necessary work, you can work towards saving your marriage and building a stronger, happier relationship with your partner.

When should you stop trying to save your Marriage?

After seeking professional advice, it still doesn’t work out. This is where we need to learn how to move on. It is never easy, but we need to recognize these issues:

Abuse and Violence

If your partner is abusive or violent towards you, it is important to prioritize your safety and well-being above all else. If you have tried to address the issue and the abuse continues, it may be time to consider ending the relationship and seeking professional help and support.

No longer Committed even after seeking professional help

Saving a marriage requires both partners to be committed to making it work. If your partner is not willing to put in the effort or is not interested in working on the relationship, it may be time to let go and move on. Continuing to try to save the marriage in this situation can lead to frustration, disappointment, and resentment.


In conclusion, while it can be difficult to hear that your wife feels that it’s too late to save your marriage, it’s important to remember that there are steps you can take to try and save it. By communicating openly, taking responsibility for your actions, seeking professional help, showing your love and commitment, and being patient, you can work towards rebuilding your relationship and overcoming the challenges that you face. As a professional counselor, I believe that it’s never too late to try and save your marriage if both partners are committed to making it work.