Coping with feeling incomplete after a breakup

Breakups can be a difficult and traumatic experience, leaving us feeling lost and incomplete. It can be hard to adjust to life after a breakup and make sense of the emotions that come with it, especially if the relationship was an important part of our lives for a long time. This blog post will explore how to cope with feeling incomplete after a breakup and learn to embrace a new sense of self and life without the relationship.

Understanding the feeling of incompleteness after a breakup

When a relationship ends, it can feel like a part of you is missing. This feeling of incompleteness can be overwhelming, leaving you feeling like a lost jigsaw piece from a full puzzle. It is important to understand that this feeling is natural and understandable.

A relationship or marriage often becomes a part of our identity, influencing the way we see ourselves and our place in the world. It is not uncommon to invest significant time, energy, and emotion into a relationship, and a breakup can feel like a significant loss.

The end of a relationship can leave us questioning our sense of self and our place in the world. It can be difficult to imagine life without the other person, and it can be easy to feel lost without them. This sense of incompleteness can be heightened by the loss of routine, shared goals, and social connections that came with the relationship.

In addition, a breakup can lead to feelings of rejection, loneliness, and low self-esteem. These feelings can make it difficult to move forward and may contribute to the sense of incompleteness that lingers after a breakup.

Overall, it is important to recognize that feeling incomplete after a breakup is a natural response to the end of a significant relationship. However, it is possible to work through these feelings and move forward with purpose and fulfillment. In the following sections, we will explore some coping mechanisms and tools for healing.

The impact of a breakup on our sense of identity

Breakups can have a profound impact on our sense of identity. When we are in a relationship, we often form a sense of self that is intertwined with our partner’s. Our routines, interests, and even personality traits may become linked to our partner’s, making it difficult to distinguish where we end and they begin. This can be especially true if the relationship was a long-term one, such as in dating, marriage, or even divorce.

After a breakup, we may feel like a jigsaw puzzle piece that no longer fits in the full puzzle. Our sense of identity is left shattered and incomplete. We may struggle to find meaning and purpose in our daily lives as the activities and interests we once shared with our partner no longer hold the same joy or relevance.

It’s important to remember that this sense of incompleteness is normal and expected after a breakup. We must take time to grieve and process the loss of the relationship, but also to reassess who we are as individuals.

It’s common to experience feelings of self-doubt and questioning, wondering if we were enough for our partner. However, it’s important to remember that our self-worth should not be tied to someone else’s love for us.

In the aftermath of a breakup, we may find that we need to redefine ourselves, exploring new interests and activities that are purely for our own enjoyment. This can be a daunting but exciting opportunity for growth and self-discovery.
By taking the time to focus on our own needs, we can learn to love ourselves again and find new purpose and fulfillment in our lives. The journey to healing and rediscovering our sense of identity after a breakup may not be easy, but it can be incredibly rewarding.


Breakups are never easy, but they are a part of life. It’s important to recognize that the feelings of incompleteness and loss of identity after a breakup are natural and normal. It’s important to acknowledge the pain and allow yourself to grieve the relationship. Coping mechanisms such as focusing on self-discovery and self-love can help in the healing process. Remember that just because a relationship or marriage ends, it doesn’t mean that you are incomplete or not whole. You are still the same amazing person that you were before the breakup, and you will continue to grow and evolve in the future. Embrace the opportunity for personal growth and find new purpose and fulfillment. If you find yourself struggling to move forward, consider reaching out for support from a therapist or coach. Remember that you are not alone in this experience and that there are always resources available to help you through the healing process. If you have any questions or need further support, don’t hesitate to call us and mention Coach Brad.