Breaking up because you want different things is one of the leading causes for divorce in the USA – Should I pick my Marriage or my Dreams?

Breakups are never easy. It’s even harder when the reason for the breakup is that the couple wants different things in the relationship. That’s what happened to me, and it was one of the worst experiences I’ve ever had. In this blog post, I’m going to talk about what it was like to have my marriage end because we wanted different things and how I dealt with the aftermath.

I thought I knew what I wanted.

When I got married, I had certain expectations. I thought that my marriage would provide me with the stability and comfort that I was looking for. I felt like we were on the same page and that our relationship was secure. Little did I know that my partner had different dreams.

Unfortunately, the dreams we had for our marriage and future life together began to diverge. We wanted different things, which created tension and eventually led to our divorce. This was a tough time for me, as I had expected our relationship to last forever. I thought that marriage was something that could withstand all obstacles, but it didn’t turn out that way.

I was heartbroken and angry that our marriage had ended, but mostly I was confused. How could something I thought was so secure fall apart in a matter of months? The breakup taught me that relationships are not always as straightforward as they seem and that sometimes you have to accept that your partner may have different ideas from you.

My partner’s desires blindsided me.

When I got married, I thought I knew what I wanted. I wanted a loving, supportive relationship that would last forever. However, as time passed, my partner and I began to have differing goals for our marriage. We began to disagree on important matters, such as whether to move, have children, or start a business. Eventually, I realised that we wanted completely different things from our relationship.

At first, I felt like my partner was being selfish and unreasonable, but I soon realised that it was entirely natural for us to have different desires. It was a hard pill to swallow at the time, and it hurt to realise that we wouldn’t be able to continue our marriage with these divergent paths. We ended up divorcing after trying to work through our issues, and it was a harrowing experience.

The breakup taught me a valuable lesson – no matter how much you love someone, you can’t always stay together if your wants and needs are too different. If you don’t see eye to eye with your partner and you want different things, then it might be best to accept that and part ways.

I felt like I had to choose between my marriage and my dreams

The breakup of my marriage was one of the most challenging things I’ve ever faced. The main reason was that my spouse and I wanted different things out of our relationship, which made it impossible to stay together. After considerable discussion, we concluded that divorce was the only viable option.

In the days and weeks leading up to the decision, I felt like I had to choose between my marriage and my dreams. On the one hand, I wanted a committed relationship that would last for many years. But on the other hand, I also wanted to pursue my goals and dreams, which could potentially be compromised if I stayed in the marriage.

I agonised over this decision for weeks, struggling to come to terms with the fact that I couldn’t have both at the same time. Ultimately, I chose to focus on my dreams and follow my path. While it was a difficult choice, it was ultimately the right one for me.

Conclusion

It can be devastating to find out that the person you have been in a relationship with or married to wanted different things from you. Going through a breakup or divorce can be difficult, but it’s essential to remember that sometimes it’s necessary to take the time to figure out what you truly want. If you’re struggling to come to terms with the changes you’ve experienced as a result of your breakup, it’s essential to know that you are not alone. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help.

Written by:

Bradley Prouting