The Worst Thing About My Breakup Was Wanting Different Things

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Breaking up because you want different things is one of the leading causes for divorce in the USA – Should I pick my Marriage or my Dreams?

Breakups are never easy. It’s even harder when the reason for the breakup is because of wanting different things in the relationship. That’s what happened to me and it was one of the worst experiences I’ve ever had. In this blog post, I’m going to talk about what it was like to have my marriage end because we wanted different things and how I dealt with the aftermath.

I thought I knew what I wanted

When I got married, I had certain expectations. I thought that my marriage would provide me with the stability and comfort that I was looking for. I felt like we were on the same page and that our relationship was secure. Little did I know, my partner had different dreams.

Unfortunately, the dreams we had for our marriage and future life together began to diverge. We wanted different things, which created tension and eventually led to our divorce. This was an incredibly difficult time for me as I had expected our relationship to last forever. I thought that marriage was something that could withstand all obstacles, but it didn’t turn out that way.

I was heartbroken and angry that our marriage had ended, but mostly I was confused. How could something I thought was so secure fall apart in a matter of months? The breakup taught me that relationships are not always as straightforward as they seem and that sometimes you have to accept that your partner may have different ideas than you do.

I was blindsided by my partner’s desires

When I got married, I thought I knew what I wanted. I wanted a loving, supportive relationship that would last forever. But as time went on, my partner and I started to have different goals for our marriage. We began to disagree on important matters like whether to move, having kids, or starting a business. Eventually, I realized that we wanted completely different things from our relationship.

At first, I felt like my partner was being selfish and unreasonable, but I soon realized that it was completely natural for us to have different desires. It was a hard pill to swallow at the time, and it hurt to realize that we wouldn’t be able to continue our marriage with these divergent paths. We ended up divorcing after trying to work through our issues, and it was an incredibly painful experience.

The breakup taught me a valuable lesson – no matter how much you love someone, you can’t always stay together if your wants and needs are too different. If you don’t see eye to eye with your partner and you want different things, then it might be best to accept that and part ways.

I felt like I had to choose between my marriage and my dreams

The breakup of my marriage was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever faced. The main reason was that my spouse and I wanted different things out of our relationship, which made it impossible to stay together. After a lot of discussion, we came to the conclusion that divorce was the only way forward.

In the days and weeks leading up to the decision, I felt like I had to choose between my marriage and my dreams. On the one hand, I wanted a committed relationship that would last for many years. But on the other hand, I also wanted to pursue my goals and dreams, which could potentially be compromised if I stayed in the marriage.

I agonized over this decision for weeks, struggling to come to terms with the fact that I couldn’t have both at once. In the end, I chose to focus on my dreams and follow my own path. While it was a difficult choice, it was ultimately the right one for me.


It can be devastating to find out that the person you have been in a relationship or marriage with wanted different things than you. Going through a breakup or divorce can be difficult, but it is important to remember that sometimes it’s necessary to take the time to figure out what you really want. If you’re struggling to come to terms with the changes you’ve experienced as a result of your breakup, it’s important to know that you are not alone. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Coach Brad and his team are here to provide support and guidance for those facing a relationship or marriage breakup.